The state of North Carolina allows you to seek a divorce at any time, for any reason, and without the need for your spouse’s approval. However, just because you have the ability to end your marriage doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the best decision. Let’s take a look at what you should think about before filing.
Am I allowing my emotions to dictate my decisions?
It’s generally not in your best interest to file for divorce immediately after engaging in an argument with your spouse. Furthermore, it’s generally not a good idea to make a decision about your marriage during an especially stressful time in your life. This is because you may make a choice that you are not prepared to follow through with, and an inability to do so can have negative consequences for yourself, your spouse, and your children.
Am I ready to live on my own?
In North Carolina, you and your spouse need to be separated for at least a year before you can file for an absolute divorce. If you sense your relationship is turning sour, you need to consider your living circumstances and how you will adjust to being away from your partner. Do you have a job that can provide enough for you and your child? Will you stay in the house, or move somewhere else? Will you want to remain in North Carolina? It’s important to speak with a financial advisor and/or an attorney to help you establish your living circumstances during this difficult time.
Is it the right choice for your family?
It’s no secret that divorce can be a grueling process for everyone involved, so it’s understandable that those considering it may be hesitant for what it will do to their families and living circumstances. However, being indecisive for too long can hurt you and your family in the long run. Forcing yourself to be with someone you no longer love so that your child does not experience having divorced parents does not do your mental health any favors, and it could create an even more hostile environment for your kids.
If you think that your relationship is going to end soon, it’s a good idea to start gathering financial documents and other important papers. Obtaining these documents may make it easier to obtain a favorable outcome whether you end your marriage through mediation or litigation.
